10 Responses for "Ask Crystal"

1. Alberto February 15th, 2009 at 5:13 am 1

   Crystal I think the trouble with you is that you are so selfless. How is it that you are the perfect person to be around at all times?

2. Crystal February 16th, 2009 at 7:47 am 2

   So my response depends entirely on my infamously mercurial mood.

   Good mood: Thank you so much Alberto, for your kind words! You are the greatest friend and seeing your message cheered me up just in time for Valentines Day! Although I’m sure you’re exaggerating. Just ask any of my ex-boyfriends..

   Bad Mood: I may be selfless on the outside, but I believe in the fundamental assumption of economics: That is, everyone acts according to selfish interests. Thus, I only act selflessly in the expectation that I am building a social safety net for myself. Because people like you think I am so great, they will be more likely to help me out in times of need.

   So, depending on what kind of mood you are in, pick the response you think is more appropriate.

   Thanks for the question, and keep reading my blog!
   –Crystal

3. Chelsea February 21st, 2009 at 9:19 pm 3

   Hi Crystal,

   I’ve been keeping track of your blog for awhile now. It’s very interesting work. Keep it up, this is by far one of my favorite reads of the year! So who bought you those roses and better yet, who do you currently have a crush on? Not to mention what are your views on homosexuality? What is your sexual orientation? You seem like a cool chick and I’d really like to know allll of your opinions. By the way you must be great in the sack if your first boyfriend told you that he loved you forever. Good job!

   CS

4. Crystal February 21st, 2009 at 10:07 pm 4

   Hi Chelsea!

   I’m glad you enjoy reading my blog and thank you for the feedback! I’m a very opinionated person [that is not to imply close minded], and I love to share and discuss my views with others. Although my friends are intimately familiar with my thoughts and stories, I’m glad that readers who don’t know me personally can also appreciate what I write. I would really like to answer all of your questions, but I’m afraid that would take a few pages worth, so I hope I can placate you with this compromise: I will be sure to write blog entries addressing each of your questions, so keep checking back!

5. Annie G March 23rd, 2009 at 7:12 pm 5

   Hi Crystal. I didn’t really know how else to contact you. You had left a question on my veggie blog about England and vegetarianism.

   I have a couple comments for you:

   I have not been to England, but I’ve been told the best way to eat vegetarian there is to stick to Indian food. I’ve also been told to stick to Indian food in England because it is very delicious and much better than English food. Hope that helps.

   I have also traveled to China and I found it very hard to avoid meat there. They believe that it is an odd idea for someone who can afford to eat meat to choose not to. You will probably do better with your attitude that some meat is ok. Skip the American fast food places that have made their way into China, though, they seem particularly unhealthy.

6. Crystal March 27th, 2009 at 8:03 pm 6

   Hi Annie,

   Thanks for the great advice. I had been sort of dreading British cuisine, but now that I hear they have great Indian, I’m super excited. I LOVE Indian food. In fact, I just tried my hand for the first time at cooking Indian at home last night.

7. JT September 12th, 2009 at 11:42 am 7

   This question isnt about you but about women in general. Understanding there are always exceptions I wanted to know your female point of view for an honest answer.
   I’m not a fan of the bar scene for my own reasons. But my wife is. And when she goes out, she always goes with the same female friend and they always bar hop. I get a little worried about what goes on because I used to get such vague answers when I asked what she did that night. I dont ask anymore because I know the answers…”we had fun and laughed…we danced a little…I dont know if guys danced with me, i was just up there dancing by myself and having fun…you have nothing to worry about” are the answers I used to get. Once or twice I have asked specifically if she gets drinks from guys or flirts and she didnt answer but went down the, ‘dont you trust me’ road.
   So, my question is, lots of women go to bars married or single, I know why men go and I know what men do (again, in general.) Can you tell me what women go for? Is it the attention, or do they really just hang out with their friends and not care about anyone else there?

8. Crystal September 13th, 2009 at 11:57 pm 8

   Dear JT,

   Having never been married, I can’t say that I can give you good insight as to why a married woman would want to go to a bar. I will say that I, and I’m guessing women in general, go to a bar for the attention. If I just wanted to have fun, get drunk, and hang out with my friends, I would stay home and drink – cheaper, more fun, and low maintenance. When I go out at night, it’s because I want to wear my skinny jeans, sexy halter top, and black boots, and put on make up that wouldn’t pass in daytime. With a little flattery, I get into clubs for free. I let men buy me drinks and flash them smiles. I dance with my girl friends like I am a lesbian and know that guys are staring at me. I am repulsed by guys who goggle, fondle, or catcall at me. But it all adds up to this: in the end, no matter how much I don’t like the shallowness of men at bars, I am reassured of my attractiveness.

   I would suggest talking to her; ask her why she likes going to the bar so much, and voice your concerns. There is no way for me to know, but one explanation is, maybe your wife goes to feel sexy. It seems to me (just from TV shows and second hand) that married women start to feel like they are losing their young edge – their sexiness. They start to feel like a boring ol’ mom who sleeps at 10pm and never goes out. If her bar activities bother you, you could perhaps try making her feel sexier at home. Let me know if you want some suggestions.

9. JT September 15th, 2009 at 11:13 am 9

   Thanks for your honesty Crystal, thats sort of what I assumed but even when i ask, i get very vague answers. But id absolutely take your advice on the home remedy!

10. JT September 16th, 2009 at 3:59 pm 10

    btw…please help me with my WordPress blog!!!! (j/k im sure you have better things to do) lol If i could pull wordpress out of the my hosting server and beat it like a rug, I would.